Let’s Talk About the Losses That Don’t Make Sense

By Ruchi Rathor | Healing Heart Series on Inner Worth

Life doesn’t come with a manual.
But it does come with loss.
The kind that stings.
The kind that lingers.
The kind that doesn’t make sense, no matter how many times you replay it in your mind.

And whether it’s a dream that didn’t unfold, a relationship that ended without closure, or a part of yourself you had to let go of just to survive, it hurts.

You may not discuss it out loud.
But I know you’ve felt it.
We all have.

So let me ask you something, honestly
When was the last time you lost something that mattered to you?
And how did you handle it?

Did you crumble quietly, convincing yourself that maybe you just weren’t good enough?
Did you numb the pain and pretend everything was fine because you didn’t want to look weak?
Or… did you do the harder thing?
Did you sit with it, ask the tough questions, and try to find the lesson in the wreckage?

Because here’s the truth:
How you deal with your losses shapes what comes next.
Not the loss itself, but the response to it.

Loss Doesn’t Always Look Like What We Expect

Loss isn’t always a death.
Sometimes it’s the job you gave your all to, only to be laid off overnight.
Sometimes it’s the friend who slowly stopped calling.
Or the version of you who existed before the world got loud.

And the hardest part?
Some losses never give you a chance to say goodbye.

That’s why they stay with us.
Because we never got to finish the story.

The Lie We’re Told About Strength

We’re taught to “be strong.”
To keep going.
To turn every scar into a motivational quote.
But what if strength isn’t about bouncing back right away?

What if it’s about pausing long enough to feel the weight of what you’ve lost?

What if healing starts with honesty, not hustle?

Because pretending something didn’t hurt only ensures it keeps hurting longer.
You can’t transform what you’re not willing to confront.

If You’ve Been Carrying a Silent Grief, This Is for You

You don’t need to “get over it.”
You don’t need to justify why it still stings.
And you don’t need to tie it up with a neat little lesson just to make others comfortable.

What you do need is space.
To feel.
To reflect.
To understand that just because something didn’t make sense, it doesn’t mean it didn’t shape you in powerful ways.

You are allowed to mourn the things that never fully ended.
The people who left without warning.
The chapters that closed themselves.

Final Reflection: Make Room for the Grief That Doesn’t Make Sense

Sometimes loss comes as a teacher.
Sometimes it comes as a test.
And sometimes it just comes. Without reason. Without mercy. Without a message.

But even in its silence, it changes us.

So the next time you feel the weight of something that never got its proper ending, don’t rush to bury it.

Sit with it. Talk to it.
Learn to live with it, rather than pushing it away.

Because healing isn’t about forgetting.
It’s about remembering with gentleness.

And if no one’s told you this lately
You’re allowed to feel.
You’re allowed to take your time.
And you’re allowed to create your kind of closure.

Even when the world doesn’t give you one.

With warmth and truth,
Ruchi Rathor