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By Ruchi Rathor | Life Coach | Helping You Lead From Within
There’s a quiet kind of strength we don’t talk about enough.
Not the kind that gets applause.
Not the kind that fills to-do lists.
It’s the strength to be gentle with yourself—especially when you feel like you don’t deserve it.
That’s self-kindness.
And it’s one of the most courageous things you’ll ever learn.
On the Good Days: Celebrate Without Shrinking
We often rush past joy.
We downplay wins. We skip over the peace.
But on the good days—pause.
You’re allowed to feel proud. You’re allowed to be the good news.
Here’s how to nourish that goodness:
- Say it out loud: “I’m proud of myself today.” It matters.
- Create a ‘Joy List’ — a small notebook or note in your phone where you capture moments that made you feel alive, grateful, or free.
- Celebrate the small stuff — answered an email, showed up on time, made someone smile? That’s worth it, too.
“Healing isn’t just about fixing what hurts. It’s about honoring what feels whole.” – Ruchi Rathor
On the Bad Days: Choose Gentleness Over Guilt
These are the hard days. The days when your energy dips, your heart aches, or your mind spirals.
And in those moments, it’s tempting to push, punish, or pretend.
But I invite you to do the opposite: pause and soften.
Here’s how:
- Breathe deeply. Even three mindful breaths can shift your nervous system from chaos to calm.
- Talk to yourself like you would to a friend. If your best friend came to you feeling broken, would you shame them—or hold them?
- Permission to rest. Rest is not laziness. It’s to repair yourself!
- Journal your heart out. Write what hurts. Write what helps. Writing makes space inside.
“You don’t have to be strong all the time. You just have to be soft enough to heal.” – Ruchi Rathor
Daily Acts of Self-Kindness That Actually Help
These aren’t just feel-good suggestions—they’re emotional first-aid.
- Morning Affirmation: “Today, I offer myself kindness, no matter what happens.”
- Evening Reflection: How did I nurture myself today? And how can I support myself further?
- Write a note to yourself once a week — even one sentence of encouragement can become a lifeline on the tough days.
- Create a ‘comfort playlist’ — songs that feel like hugs.
Remember: Treating yourself with kindness isn’t conditional—it’s essential. It’s how you build a life that feels good from the inside out.
Surround Yourself With Supportive Energy
We heal faster in kind company.
Whether it’s a mentor, a friend, or a gentle online space—let yourself be held.
If you’re here reading this, Healing Heart is already your space. A place where gentleness isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.
Let your experiences shape your wisdom!!
Setbacks will come. So will moments of self-doubt. But each time you choose kindness instead of criticism, and gentleness instead of shame—you’re evolving. You’re guiding yourself forward.
“Self-kindness isn’t something you earn. It’s something you deserve—just by being human.” – Ruchi Rathor
Final Thoughts
On your best days and your hardest ones, you have the power to treat yourself with tenderness.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You don’t need to push through the pain.
You just need to listen, love, and lead yourself—one kind choice at a time.
Because healing isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present. With yourself. For yourself.
Let’s Hold Space for Each Other…..
What does self-kindness look like for you lately?
What’s one small way you’ve chosen softness over struggle?
Share with us in the comments—your story might be the light someone else needs today.
With care and compassion,
Ruchi Rathor
Life Coach
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