Alright let’s begin this topic with a quote by Roy T. Bennett that he wrote in his beautiful novel The Light In The Heart which goes “The outer world is a reflection of the inner world. Other people’s perception of you is a reflection of them; your response to them is an awareness of you.”
Let’s put it this way you are an amazing human being. You have a story that only you can tell and it’s up to you if you want to share it with others or not. But, let me tell you this; your perception of others is not exactly the same as theirs of you. So, it doesn’t matter if their opinion of you is different from what they should be thinking about themselves.
Who Cares What The Haters Think?
I was 15 years old when i came home from school, sad because i couldn’t win the competition I really prepared hard for. My brother came up to me trying to cheer me up when he said “you could be the juiciest peach in the world but there will be some people who doesn’t like peaches” and that has stuck with me since. And I’m sure you must have heard the saying, “haters gonna hate”. It means that there will always be people who don’t like you. They might have a reason to dislike you, but they don’t have to be right. You are who you are and that is all that matters. If someone doesn’t like it because of their own insecurities or personal issues, then so what? They should get over themselves!
You are a Diamond in the Rough. You always have been!
Yeah, you are a Diamond in the Rough. You always have been!
As a child, you may not have realized this yet but as we grow up and meet more people and try different things, we realize how special we are. We know that there isn’t another person like us on this planet! And that’s what makes us so unique and beautiful inside and out.
We may go through some difficult times along the way, but it is in these times that we discover our strengths and how to use them to go beyond any challenges that might come on the way. So don’t let someone else’s perception of you hold you back from being who YOU want to be because after all there isn’t another YOU on this planet!
You Don’t Owe Anyone Anything
You don’t owe anyone anything. You don’t have to be what they want you to be, you don’t have to be what they need you to be and most importantly, you don’t have to do anything for them if it doesn’t feel right for YOU!
But it feels like our world crumbles when we try to live this way. We grow lonesome. We begin to second-guess every choice we make in life, thinking, “Maybe I should do this or that instead,” in the hopes that it will make people like us more.
Your Flaws Are Perfect And Your Imperfections Make You Who You Are
Your flaws are perfect and your imperfections make you who you are.
It’s not your flaws that make up who you are as a person, it’s the imperfections. We all have them and we all have different ones. Some people may think that their flaws are ugly, others may think that they’re perfect because they make them who they are, it all depends on how we see ourselves.
No matter how hard you work or how much effort you put in, you will never be perfect, but beauty isn’t defined by perfection either! Everyone has different types of imperfections, making each individual unique in their own way, which is what makes everything interesting and wonderful about them!
Even if someone else doesn’t find your flaw to be beautiful or interesting anymore (which is highly unlikely), just remember that there will always be someone who does! And even if no one else thinks that your flaw is special or unique anymore, just remember that YOU do!!
Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.
Lao Tzu
No One Else Lived Your Life. No one! They Don’t Even Know Half of It
You are the only one who has lived your life and no one else will ever know all of it. They don’t even know half of it! You have been through so much that others can never understand!
You have overcome obstacles other people can’t even imagine facing in their wildest dreams. No one should be allowed to criticize you or pass any sort of judgement on you since they have no idea what you have gone through and neither do they care about the hardships that brought up who are today. You are the only one who is uniquely entitled to judge yourself!
If someone doesn’t like you, that’s okay. They don’t need to know why this person doesn’t like them (and really, they probably don’t care anyway). There is nothing wrong with being different and standing out from the crowd.
Others might not understand you because they don’t know what happened to you over the years that changed you the way it did
You can’t expect others to understand you if they don’t know what happened to you. The truth is, most people have no idea what you went through over the years that changed you the way it did. They might have experienced similar situations, but it’s not the same for everyone.
The truth is that if someone has had a similar experience to yours in their life, they might be able to relate on some level with how difficult it was for them at first too, but this does not necessarily mean that anyone would be able to relate directly with how difficult being an introvert was for example because there are so many factors involved, such as age differences or biological differences, etc. which means even though we may all share some common experiences with each other sometimes those shared experiences don’t mean anything at all when comparing them directly against one another (elements such as genetics play a huge role here).
Be The Real You and Don’t Mind Others Perception
-Quit trying to be somebody else.
-You are already awesome, beautiful and special. Stop trying to fit into the image of what others want you to be.
-The only person who can make you feel good about yourself is yourself! You don’t need anyone’s approval to feel good about yourself.
-So be the real you and don’t mind others perception of you because other’s perception of you doesn’t really matter!
The bottom line is, it’s your life and you can live it however you want. There are no rules, just guidelines. Most importantly, remember that if your happiness is not tied to the opinion of others then nothing else matters. You have to love yourself first before anyone else will love you back!