I used to be a people pleaser. I wanted everyone to like me, so I was always trying to make them happy. Without even giving it a second thought, I would say yes if someone asked me to do something. No matter the time or how busy I was with other activities, I was always there for my friends when they needed me. This first made me feel good because people like being around me and valued what I did for them, but after some time it became quite demanding on my time and energy, which made it very stressful. Plus, pleasing others often made it difficult for me to accomplish my goals because when you’re always making sacrifices for someone else’s benefit then there isn’t much left over for yourself!
Pleasing Others Is Exhausting
Pleasing others is exhausting, and it can cause you to lose sight of your own needs.
It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that pleasing others will somehow make them like or love you more.
In reality, this isn’t true at all. If anything, when people are aware of your boundaries they are more likely to respect and value you. Pleasing others also means that we often lose our sense of self in order to meet other people’s expectations—and sometimes these expectations aren’t even reasonable ones!
It Can Keep You From Reaching Your Goals
If you frequently find yourself doing things for other people and not enough time on the things that are important to you, you may be a people-pleaser.
You might even sacrifice what’s best for you in order to keep other people happy, sometimes at the expense of your own health or well-being.
If this sounds familiar, it’s because being a people pleaser can be detrimental to your life goals. If you’re more concerned with pleasing others than reaching your personal goals, then perhaps it’s time to change that mindset so that you can achieve success in all areas of life—not just the ones where being nice is important!
It Can Cause Depression, Low Self Esteem and Anxiety
One of the many reasons why you shouldn’t be a people pleaser is that it might result in depression, low self-esteem and anxiety. Why? Because you are always trying to please others as opposed to yourself. Being a people pleaser can also make it difficult for you to set boundaries so that you can protect yourself from being taken advantage of or feeling used by others. This can happen in romantic relationships, friendships and at work.
You May Find Yourself Doing Things That Are Not Good For You
You may find yourself doing things that are not good for you.
People pleasing can be addictive. If you’re constantly giving to others, it’s easy to push aside your own needs and desires in order to please others. This can lead to resentment, burnout, and even physical health problems if left unchecked.
You may do things that are not good for others. When we act in ways to win the approval or love of those around us, we run the risk of manipulating them rather than honestly caring about what they need or want from us (and vice versa). We might also be more likely to agree when someone asks for something that doesn’t align with our values simply because we don’t want them to feel bad or disappointed in us—which isn’t fair on anyone involved!
You Will Attract Negative People And Relationships
Other people-pleasers are drawn to those who areYou will probably draw other people who are people pleasers if you have a tendency to please others. If a person is not interested in your well-being, goals or health — and they don’t have empathy for your feelings — then they are not someone that should be in your life at all. When this type of person enters the picture, it makes you feel like there is something wrong with YOU because they have such negative comments about everything!
You Are The Only Person Responsible For Your Happiness
You are the only person responsible for your happiness. You could believe that those close to you have the power to influence your mood, but they don’t. They only have an impact on how you are feeling right now and how much effort you put into being happy.
For example, if a friend asks if they can borrow your favorite sweater and then accidentally rips it while wearing it out to a bar, this is not something that should ruin your entire week! You will probably be upset at first but then realize that it’s okay because it was just an accident and nothing more than that. You’ll move on quickly because YOU want to move on quickly—not because someone forced themselves onto your schedule without asking (or without respecting any boundaries).
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make other people happy, but there is something wrong when it comes at the expense of your own well-being. If you constantly find yourself doing things that are not good for you in order to please others then maybe you need to reevaluate your priorities. It’s time for you to start prioritizing yourself, so that way when someone asks what they can do for YOU this time around they will actually have an answer!