Parenting is a difficult and often thankless job. It takes discipline, patience, and love to raise children into productive, kind adults. But what if you don’t have any of these things? Or if your relationship with your children is strained? Parenting isn’t always easy for parents or for kids – but it can be done well with the right mindset.
Here are five ways to develop trust and love between parents and their children:
Show empathy for your children’s feelings.
The ability to empathize is the ability to comprehend and experience another person’s feelings. It represents wisdom, esteem, and love. By expressing non-judgmental acceptance of your children’s feelings, you can clearly show to them that you care about them.
Here are some ways that parents can express empathy for their kids’ feelings:
- Listen without judging or interjecting. Allow your child to express their feelings to you, but refrain from offering suggestions or advice while they are still speaking. Sometimes just listening to a child who is upset or frustrated—and letting them know you care—is enough.
- Acknowledge their point of view as valid even if it’s different than yours; don’t let any judgments creep into this process either! We all want our voices heard, even if we know deep down inside that someone else might think differently than us—especially when those differences are expressed through actions rather than words.
Engage in regular conversations
Talk about your interests. Spreading your focus across a variety of interests can help you avoid becoming overly committed to any one thing, but it can also make you feel detached from those who have more tightly focused interests.
Talking about what you do in your life, including work and leisure activities, helps your child understand the world around them and gives them an idea of how their actions could affect others—especially if those actions are causing harm or pain to others! If they know there’s something they shouldn’t do because their parents won’t approve then they’ll probably be less likely to do it!
Apologize for your mistake
When we think of trust, we usually imagine that it’s built from the bottom up. The more positive experiences you have with someone, the more trustworthy they seem. But trust can also be created from the top down—by showing that you are willing to acknowledge when you’re wrong and apologize for your mistakes.
For example, if you find out that you accidentally got angry at your child over something minor (like spilling milk), say “I’m sorry I yelled at you about that spilled milk! It wasn’t worth getting upset about.” Then explain what actions will be taken so it doesn’t happen again: “I’ll make sure to bring place-mats next time.” Then ask them for forgiveness: “Can I get a hug?” Be sincere while doing this; admit when there was no reason to yell at them in the first place!
Use praise wisely
Praise the behavior, not the child. It’s great to compliment your child’s character, but only if you can do it without making them feel self-conscious. If you compliment them on their intelligence or athletic prowess, they are likely to internalize your words as “I am intelligent/good at sports—therefore nothing else matters.” Try praising their effort or perseverance rather than their intelligence or athletic prowess.
For example: “You worked so hard today! You never gave up until you got that math problem right!” Or “I know how hard it is for new runners to keep up with everyone else when they first start running; I used to be like that too! That was really impressive how quickly you were able to improve! There are no short cuts in life…you just have to keep trying harder every day until eventually success happens.”
Pay attention to your child.
To build trust, we need to pay attention to our children. We can do this by listening closely to what they say, asking questions about what they’re interested in and paying attention to how they’re feeling. Asking our children their opinions on subjects that are important to them is another approach. It’s important to give your child the opportunity to decide based on the information provided, rather than simply asking them how they feel about a situation or a decision you’ve made.
Here’s an example: A mom wants her daughter’s hair cut short so she can donate it for cancer patients; however, her daughter does not want this because she likes long hair better. The mom could say “Sarah! You have no idea how much easier it will be for me if I don’t have long hair all over my house!” She could also reply “I’m sorry but this isn’t up for discussion.” Both responses would be pretty cold-hearted—but neither would help with building trust between parent and child! Instead consider saying something like “Okay honey…if that makes sense for YOU….”
It’s important to remember that you don’t have to be perfect. The more you can engage with your kids, the stronger the relationship will be and the goal is to create a positive, loving environment where your child feels safe enough to communicate with you. If you keep this in mind, then even mistakes and misunderstandings can be opportunities for growth. And remember they’re only young once, so it’s important to make every moment count!
RUCHI RATHOR Founder & CEO
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